So, I went to this workshop over this past weekend. The main focus was on figuring out our own essence (who we really are in center of our being) and life purpose. This is an interesting thing, because from my own experience, this is what people struggle the most with. The fact that there are so many things that occupy us during our work/free time, we don’t really have to think about what do we expect from life and how do we achieve it. Rather, we take the job that is offered to us. We marry people who stick long enough around us. And we make kids when there is an appropriate time for it. Well, is that something we really want thou? I don’t think so.
I’m not arguing the point that no one wants to have kids or get married. I personally don’t give a shit about marriage, but would wanna leave kids behind. It is more of a matter of choice. Is this the person I want to marry and is this the person I wanna have kids with? Same with job; is this really something I would wanna and enjoy doing? No? Why do you do it then?
Most of the times it is the fear that hold us back. Fear from not being able to find different job or better partner. It might also be the lack of trust in ourselves - that we don’t deserve any better.
However, back to the workshop. What I have noticed is that people were careful at the beginning, but because the work in the workshop requires a lot of opening (I mean personal experience, and inner energy opening) - becoming vulnerable, the group very quickly develops inner cohesiveness. There is no other way around then give in and start trusting. This opens whole different dimension of working with yourself and others. It allows you to tap to your blind spots you were not able to see for ages or ever!
The problem is the time when you are supposed to leave. You feel all comfy and safe in the environment you have created in last couple of hours that you don’t feel like leaving and going out to the ugly world, where you have to close yourself up again and deal with the strangers that could hurt you.
It is an immediate change. One second you are talking to totally sweet little lady (your partner in workshop); however, once you cross a threshold of the “Save space” she stops talking and you can feel that you are already bugging her, that she wants to go home, and she is all the sudden distant.
Why we people can’t just let go? Stay open and get hurt, but at the same time get all the love that is offered out there?!
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